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It may be appropriate to hand out an extra consequence for lying sometimes. Tell your child, "You are losing your video game for the rest of the day because you didn't do your homework. But because you lied about it, you're also going to lose the TV."
Make honesty a priority in your home as well. Create a household rule that says, "Tell the truth," and your kids will be more likely to recognize the importance of being honest.
Finally, make sure you're a good role model. Lying about your child's age to get him a discount on a movie ticket, for example, will teach him that lying is OK.
We see all kids to stretch the truth and tell tall tales at one time or another. And while it can be frustrating to hear your child tell an outright lie, it's important to consider the reason your child is being dishonest before you take action.
Does your child ever tell you she rode a unicorn? Or does he insist a monster must have made the mess in her bedroom? Kids have wonderful imaginations and sometimes, they present their fantasies as truths.
Has your child ever tried to convince you she didn’t eat any cupcakes despite the blue frosting on her face? Similar to the way an adult may lie to avoid getting into trouble with a boss, kids often lie to avoid negative consequences.
If your child has a habit of lying to stay out of trouble, examine your discipline strategies. Research shows harsh discipline actually turns kids into good liars. If your child is fearful of your reaction, she’ll be more likely to tell lies.
Kids also tell lies because they want to impress other people. A child may tell his friends he got a home run in the baseball game, or he may tell his parents he got the highest math grade in the whole class, even when it’s not true.
Exaggerating the truth—or even outright lying—is often used to mask insecurities. In an attempt to fit in with their peers, kids sometimes insist they’ve either endured similar experiences as their friends, or they attempt to impress their friends with their stories.
A child who doesn’t know how to swim may claim he saw a shark in the ocean or a child who didn’t get a lot of presents for a holiday may make up a long list of expensive gifts he received.
If your child has a habit of lying to look good in front of others, he may need a boost to his self-esteem. Talk to him about the potential consequences of bragging and work on appropriate social skills. Help him find ways to connect with other people without lying about his experiences.
Praise his efforts, not the outcome. Then, you'll show him that value his hard work, rather than his achievement.
For example, rather than praise him for getting the most goals in the soccer game, praise him for trying hard. Reinforce to him that he doesn’t need to be the best in order to gain acceptance from others.
Source Courtesy : https://www.verywellfamily.com